“All sorts of opportunities have opened up”
Before I started working with Carolien, I knew my qualities and my desires, but I didn’t dare to fully live them. I couldn’t see my added value and I had the tendency to downplay it. It made it hard not to listen to that insecure voice within me that made me feel small and stuck.
Within the one-on-one coaching program From Judgement To Joy, Carolien has taught me to trust myself and my capabilities. I now make a conscious choice to work on projects that really suit me. As a result, I have taken on some new challenging projects in which I can shine. Of course, I still execute other tasks that are part of my job description, but I make sure that they don’t take up more time than needed.
As I dare to say yes to new opportunities, other people have also experienced me within new roles that suit me well. As a consequence, even more opportunities have opened up. I now know that if one road ends, there is no need for frustration or anger. I have found the trust within me, that other options will come. I love the journey that I am on. The end goal has become less and less important.
At first sight, most exercises that Carolien gave me seemed very simple. Their deep transformational effect however, is profound. I have been surprised that longstanding negative patterns have shown themselves redundant within the relatively short period of fourteen weeks! It has provided me with the opening to become the woman I now am.
Suzanne Ogier, Project Leader and Change Manager at TNO
“Carolien, I’ve made a massive change in my life, and I want to thank you for it!”
The last time we chatted was soon after I had my second child, Hannah. Children added so much to our lives, but also added challenges. Often, I felt overwhelmed, not sure which way to turn. There were too many life puzzle pieces to put back in the box… and sometimes, “my” pieces were pushed out of the box completely. I felt like I was at a crossroads, unsure if I should continue in my career, or go in a totally different direction.
Talking with you was a very important beginning to choosing the path I’m on now. You helped me shift my perspective on work and time management. You guided me in exploring ideas and possibilities, without telling me what I should do, or how I should think. This took me many months…actually, it took a few years.
Because I went through this process, I could see my current career in a different light. I had a new appreciation for the skills and knowledge I’d gained over the years. I decided to recommit to my career and build on this experience. Most important, I realized I needed to be my own strongest support, because no one would be a better advocate for me—than me.
So, even though I didn’t change careers, I am now in a new job and a new city. My family moved across the country to support this change for me. Moving has brought challenges and rewards to us all, but our family is closer than ever, supporting each other as we grow in new and interesting directions.
I truly want to THANK YOU!
Terri Anderson, Museum Registrar, Seattle USA
“A Present For Life”
“One year before I started my coaching with Carolien, I met her at a coffee bar in town. We spoke briefly, exchanged contact information and I subscribed to her newsletter. I learned already quite a few things from the tools and tips she shared in her articles and films. Carolien’s approach (both live and online) appealed to me: she is open, deeply interested, practical, sensitive though decisive and down to earth. I took a mental note: if ever in the future I might need a coach, I will contact her.
A year later, I wanted to find an answer to some of the questions I had: where do I want to go next professionally? What are my specific qualities? What suits me well and what are my opportunities? As I didn’t want to keep spinning in the same circles anymore, I asked Carolien for help. The very minute I opened myself up for the coaching, I could already sense that things started to shift, as if I finally had set myself in motion again.
Already within the first ten minutes of our first phone conversation, Carolien recognized there were deeper questions underneath my story and she shared this insight with me. Soon I realized that the goals I had set were only the tip of the iceberg and that I had ignored and carefully disregarded a lot of what was happening underneath the surface. I found out how disconnected I felt from my true feelings, using my mind as a hiding place. I was driven by numerous beliefs on how things should be. Deep down I knew all this. It was both confronting and critical when Carolien pointed this out to me, constantly checking with me whether she understood my responses correctly. Carolien helped me to re-establish my inner connection, on a physical and emotional level, enabling me to rediscover my needs, my beliefs and my barriers. The techniques and exercises that she uses to do so are very effective and accessible and I still use them to reflect on what’s going on.
The One Day Intensive is very intense indeed, but that was perfect for me. Carolien hosted the day sensitively, with eye for detail and with humour. Her willingness to be vulnerable herself, creates a safe environment to dive in. I was shaken up and received practical tools to work with whenever I feel triggered. The last conversation with Carolien of this journey, two weeks later, helped sharpen these tools.
Even now -a couple of months later- Carolien’s toolkit helps me to make decisions that are mine. I feel in control again and stay close to my own needs and desires. I can set boundaries more easily and feel comfortable doing so. I feel lighter, happier and know what I want more quickly. I recognize in what situations I can act and I accept the things I can’t change. I identify beliefs that hold me back in my development and I’m being less harsh to myself. I’m more playful and full of energy. All in all achievements that make me a nicer person, both for myself and for my environment. The coaching has been a present for life!”
Marieke Bongaards, Cultuurscout in Rotterdam
“I’ve Regained Touch With My Guts And My Lust For Life”
“Working with Carolien is a feast. Every session allowed me to get in touch with myself more deeply. I felt parts in me that had already been waiting for a long time to be seen. It’s helpful to let them come to the light and to listen to them fully. For me, it has cleared the air. I now communicate more honestly and clearly with the people around me. This deeply felt bodily experience could only emerge because of Carolien being totally present: her unconditional support, clear seeing and feeling means that no part remains unseen or left alone. Every time I left the building after a session, my outside world was different too. I have a renewed sense of direction and focus and I am open for hunches and inspiration. To put it differently: I’ve regained touch with my guts and with my lust for life! Thank you so much Carolien!”
Connie van Dam, Yoga teacher / voicework / massage www.yomabe.nl
“I’m really glad I have given myself the opportunity to discover my own way of being in this world”
“I contacted Carolien because I didn’t feel as passionate about my work as a consultant as I used to do. I had gone through a divorce with all the emotional upheaval that comes with it. As a result I felt unstable, wondering whether I should change jobs. Actually, I doubted most of the choices I made. Is this the right thing to do right now? Or not? I just didn’t know.
I invested in a 1-on-1 coaching program with Carolien. With hindsight, I see that one year after my divorce I was feeling more stressed out than I realized. The coaching has had a huge impact on me. I feel calmer, more at ease and most importantly I have reclaimed my self-confidence. Where I used to not completely trust my own judgement (colleague X has probably given this more thought than I have, so let me follow their approach), I now dare to make a stand for my own ideas and choices.
As a result I feel both more vulnerable and stronger. I tell people what I think and feel as I don’t have to avoid conflict anymore. I even feel confident when I train a group of professionals, something I had firmly refused to do for quite some time. Last but not least, I’ve taken up massage training, something I am fully enjoying.
Before I approached Carolien, I had read some of her articles and newsletters. But it was only after I had asked around for referrals for a good coach, that I had the nudge to email her. During our phone conversation, I felt I wanted to learn from her.
What I like best about her coaching is that Carolien truly sees people. She is completely present and follows her own intuitive knowing. She has role modeled that for me. It helps me when I do my own trainings. The modules and the homework assignments that come with the coaching provided me with the structure and the tools to start doing things in a different way. For example, finding clarity when I have to make a decision. Yes, I sometimes do have my ups and downs and I am still learning every day. But I’m really glad I have given myself the opportunity to discover my own way of being in this world.”
Marieke Megens, Consultant Radar Advies
“Without Carolien’s support, I would have never had the courage to take on my role as Innovation Consultant”
“After 20 years of art projects, exhibitions and different artistic collaborations, I knew I wanted to put my art career to an end. So I ended running commissions, evacuated my studio and got rid of all the artwork that I had accumulated over the years. I felt at ease and relieved. At the same, I had no clue what I wanted to do next.
When I first met with Carolien for one-on-one coaching, I felt ready to go into hibernation. But after week one, I discovered that I didn’t need extra sleep. What I did need was a sense of direction. So I immersed myself into Carolien’s assignments and started to uncover my talent, my core qualities and my mission.
The one-on-one coaching has brought me a deep sense of knowing and confidence in what I am good at: I bring clarification to unclear and complex projects and I see opportunities to change them into something promising. And I know I am at my best at the initial -often quite messy- stages of a project.
At this time, three months after the coaching, I find myself more and more in situations where I want to be. This has everything to do with my newly gained ability to clearly and confidently share what I have to offer when meeting new people. As a result, I have been able to transfer my qualities to other fields. I love my new role as innovation consultant on the different project teams I participate in. And I’ve raised my fees as I recognize my worth. Above all, I know that every step I take is in alignment with what I want. Both professionally and personally.
Although I didn’t know it when I started the one-on-one coaching, it has definitely been worth all the money. Had I not done it, I simply would have accepted feeling so tired and having less energy. Telling myself that life is difficult after all, or other nonsense. I’m positive that without Carolien’s support, I would have never had the courage to take on my new role as Innovation Consultant.
I chose Carolien as my coach as I felt a great connection with her from the very beginning. Carolien doesn’t pretend to have any answers. Instead, she enables you to find your own. To me, this makes all the difference. A year ago, another coach I worked with advised me to become a consultant. Then, I couldn’t adopt this role, because it was his idea, not mine. Now that I’ve coached with Carolien, I feel I truly own my new role. And even, more importantly, I act upon it.”
Martina Florians, Innovation Consultant
“I am having fun again, doing the work that I love doing most”
“Before I started working with Carolien, I felt restless and rushed. At the time, I had just opened my own hair salon. Many things needed my attention, but I couldn’t oversee all the parts and details. So I just kept going, doing a lot of things, mostly by myself. I did have a team that was eager to help me but I didn’t know how to properly lead them.
One day I realized that if I wasn’t going to stop myself, I was going to be stopped. My body would collapse. During the one-on-one coaching, Carolien confronted me with my escape behavior of busyness to the level of burning myself out. Something I didn’t like but had to face. And she gave me the tools to reestablish the dialogue with myself, reconnecting me with my intuition. Thirdly I learned how to communicate clearly with my team members, enabling them to perform their tasks to their best capacity.
Many things have changed since the coaching. First of all, I cut down on my workweek and stopped overscheduling my agenda with client appointments. As a result, I experience more freedom and ease. My energy level has increased. And because of me being more relaxed, the team spirit has improved. Above all I am having fun again, doing the work that I love doing most.
In my eyes, choosing the right coach has everything to do with trust. Carolien emanates primal trust.
Her being non-judgmental and allowing everything to come up as it is, made me feel safe with her. No advising or ‘Do you know what you should do?’. Carolien assists you to find your own truth. In full integrity. Exactly what I was looking for.”
Guido Rieger, owner Guido Rieger Rotterdam
“I feel reconnected to myself again.”
“This is going to be too much. I have to do something, otherwise I will cross the boundaries of what I can handle. When I realized that, I called in the help of Carolien. My schedule was overfull with lots of weekly yogaclasses. At the same time, I was building my own wellness center and finishing off two other companies. Above that, I have a family with young children.
When my dad died, I realized that I might be in trouble. To be honest I hadn’t felt anything for a long time. I wasn’t having fun, never in a good mood. I did everything – a big to-do-list – on an automatic pilot. From the outside people couldn’t tell, but I knew that I had to do something.
The most important thing, that the one-on-one coaching with Carolien has brought me, is that I feel reconnected with myself again. I now sense it when I have to stop, because I allow myself to feel my body’s signals and to recognize them. I can look inside myself, register what is going on and use this to my own advantage.
Scheduling Me-time. Standing still in order to see what I am doing. During the coaching I discovered plenty of responsibilities and projects that I don’t have to keep carrying with me. Less is more. Instead of taking on big projects, I learned how to take small steps. For example, during the first week of coaching, I introduced the family breakfast in my family. It was the start of a series of small changes in creating more structure and peace in our family life. My kids don’t have an overstressed mother anymore. My husband and I have become a team again.
Last but not least, the coaching has helped me to work more effectively. I could handle the inheritance of my father smoothly, while working on building my wellness center. Without the coaching I wouldn’t have been able to get all this work done.
What I find important in a coach is that I work with someone who can level with me and knows how to deal with my power. In the first session with Carolien I felt that Carolien was the right fit. She is easy accessible and has a down to earth approach. She is a good listener and knows when to counterbalance coaches. Above all, I wanted to learn from someone who had walked that path before me. Someone like Carolien. Her life experience is of added value to her coaching.
Would you like to be an example for your children and still fully enjoy your life? Work with Carolien. You won’t regret it.”
Janneke van Tuijl, yogateacher and owner Sammati wellness finca www.sammatiwellnessfinca.com
“I am feeling in charge again.”
“Every time I thought about my future, I saw beautiful things in front of me. That’s where I want to be. I didn’t have a lack of ambition and plans. However, somehow I couldn’t bring myself to make the necessary steps in order to realize those plans. While in my younger years, I had worked extremely hard to build my art practice, during the last couple of years my ambitions had slid off to a second, third or even fourth place. I wanted to change that.
In the one-on-one coaching with Carolien I rediscovered where I wanted to put my focus and energy in. And -almost more important- what to stop doing. I quickly created my first tangible result: a cabinet with doors. The big clean up could start. I had no idea it could be that simple! My first little success gave me the courage and motivation to take action and keep making the necessary steps. After a while I realized that I was doing only projects that I really wanted to do. I felt happy and really proud of the results that I had gained.
Through the coaching, I learned a lot about myself and gained insights in my blockages. What an AHA-experiences! I know what do to now when I come across an obstacle. I have the practical tools and the right mindset to overcome them. Without forcing things. I feel I am in charge again and I’m becoming more and more ambitious.
With Carolien you can feel at ease right away. She has the talent to help people distinguish what is important to them and what is not. She does this by listening deeply. Besides that she is very thorough and vigorous. When I feel lost, she knows how to bring me back on track so that I work on the things that need my attention. With every session I gained clarity on my next steps. I would go home with useful tips and tricks, that I could put in practice immediately.
Have you not been able to work on your own projects for a long time? Do you hear yourself saying over and over again: I will get at that one day? Give yourself the support of coaching with Carolien. It’s more than worth the investment!”
Marcha van den Hurk, artist www.marchavandenhurk.com
“I have refound my inner compass and my trust that I can make the right decisions.”
“Before I asked Carolien to help me, I was working over hours in order to turn my new business into a success. I did everything the experts tell you to do: I made a business plan, defined my products and services, built a website and a Facebook page, used Twitter, attended many network event and so on. Everyday I had a huge to-do-list, which I ploughed through. But I still had the feeling that I wasn’t doing enough and I continually doubted whether I was on the right track.
Carolien helped me to find my inner compass and to trust that I am capable of making the right decisions and priorities in my business and in my private life. The various exercises that Carolien gave me to learn to listen better to my own needs and to my body, were extremely good. I still do them weekly.
Carolien’s coaching has also taught me to take time for reflection and to check in with myself, whether I am still doing things I find important and contribute to my mission, especially when I am busy and stressed.
Carolien has the gift to make you feel at ease quickly. She doesn’t judge, and is always enthusiastic and honest. She uses her intuition to spot the important issues and focuses on those. After each session I went home feeling lighter and inspired. I highly recommend her as a coach!”
Martine Servaes-Loos, coach and trainer of expats www.globalcoach.nl